Why Demi Lovato Uses Both ‘They/Them’ and ‘She/Her’ Pronouns
For many, Demi Lovato was one of the first artists to openly use “they/them” pronouns and identify as non-binary. And Lovato’s decision to change her pronouns, after being hyper-feminized as a teen star on Disney Channel, catalyzed discussions about gender identity. Some of those conversations often diminished Lovato’s gender identity as the butt of a joke, complete with a blatant disdain for their fluidity.
In a recent interview on the Spout podcast, Lovato explained to host Tamara Dhia the usage of their pronouns, saying that she’s actually adopted she/her pronouns once again.
“For me, I’m such a fluid person when it comes to my gender, my sexuality, my music,” she said, later adding, “Especially last year, my energy was balanced in my masculine and feminine energy. When I was faced with the choice of walking into a bathroom and it said ‘women’ and ‘men,’ I didn’t feel like there was a bathroom for me. I didn’t feel necessarily like a woman. I didn’t feel like a man. I just felt like a human.”
“And that’s what they/them is about for me. It’s just about feeling human at your core,” she added. “Recently, I’ve been feeling more feminine, and so I’ve adopted she/her again.”
The conversation with Dhia comes more than a year after she came out as non-binary. Since then, several other musicians like Lil Uzi Vert have revealed they prefer they/them pronouns as well.
At the time of her they/them pronoun change last year, Lovato said she felt the pronouns “best represents the fluidity I feel in my gender expression and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am and am still discovering.”
The key aspect of Lovato’s statement at the time was that she was “still discovering” the intricacies of her identity and fluidity. Gender identity is a spectrum and people’s connection with specific pronouns and labels can change over time.
On the recent podcast, Lovato added, “I think what’s important is [that] nobody’s perfect. Everyone messes up pronouns at some point, and especially when people are learning. It’s just all about respect.”
“I would say it’s a new era. I’m ever-evolving, ever-changing. I’d like to put the rest of my music behind me and start fresh in this new era for this next album — but I do that every album cycle,” Lovato told Rolling Stone earlier this year. “It’s a new era reminiscent of my first era.”